Pennie Brownlee reminded me about self-love 2 days ago as I received her March Dance with me the Heart newsletter. Here’s her checklist to check out.
Page 253 of Emmanuel’s Book (compiled by Pat Rodegast and Judith Stanton) poses:
How to love yourself and others?
To begin to practice loving, it would be well to start with yourself. Beyond that, the sharing with another will be as gently flowing as the sweetest kiss of spring. So, let me offer this to you as a bit of homework.
Stand before your mirror, alone, paper and pencil at hand. Draw a line down the centre of the page. On the left hand side of the page write, “This is what I accept about myself.” Notice I did not say ‘love’. On the other side write, “This is what I do not accept about myself.” Then hold an honest and open discourse with that image in the mirror.
See yourself on many different levels of reality, from the highest to the lowest, from the most mature to the most immature, from the sweetest to the harshest, from the most loving to the angriest you have ever been.
Allow yourself to experience the love, the compassion, the hate, the rage, the jealousy and the sacrifice. Begin to take note of how you judge your judging, how you disbelieve your lovingness, how you take pride in your self censuring.
None of this is to be done harshly. No. No. There has been enough of that. But with an eye to truth. The shame you feel when you truly love yourself is heartbreaking. You have come to learn love. You cannot love another more than you love yourself. You cannot love God more than you love another.
Hold a dialogue with yourself in the mirror for at least ten minutes – more if you like (you can spend hours if it pleases you), but at least ten minutes – then close your eyes and see yourself bathed in the radiant light of love. Accept it. Let it come through your pores. You are bathed in love every minute of every day, for you are love.
The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed.
The greatest happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved; loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves. Victor Hugo