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Another site with a similar flavour to Pornastherapy (featured in Sex Talk rua) is: Cindy Gallop’s #realworldsex : Make Love Not Porn

Gallop launched her site with this 4 minute to the point TED talk, with the infamous paragraph “not all women wish men to cum on their faces”:

Gallop is an older woman who dates and has sex with younger men in their 20s. She has experienced first hand the results of the porn industry (particularly hard core porn) on these young lovers. Gallop has found herself sexually re-educating and indeed rehabilitating men in their 20s. She dispels the stereotypes and myths of hard cord porn. She teaches them more of a smorgasbord of what women want.

makelovenotpornThese real life observations coupled with her concern that the 20 year old women who are having sex with these 20 year old men may not be as confident of their sexuality and able to express or assert their desires, and may be participating in sex they’re not comfortable with, has led Cindy Gallop to provide: Make Love Not Porn.

This is a two fold ‘service’ where she invites submissions.

tahi) there is a more ‘static’ version of the site which is essentially a light, quick, easy to absorb written Q & A. Readers can submit a their assumptions or perceptions about sex and she offers an alternative view .

rua) there is a more ‘animated’ TV version – Make Love Not Porn TV. Here people can submit their ‘sex tapes’. Their opening line sums things up nicely:


MakeLoveNotPorn.tv is of the people, by the people, and for the people who believe that the sex we have in our everyday life is the hottest sex there is.”


Tying it back into The School of Life and their Pornastherapy
I have to say this, whilst writing these stories the sexual innuendo is wreaking havoc with my sense of humour. Titter.Titter.

Here’s a link to School of Life’s blog article which exits by inviting readers to their workshops with Cindy Gallop.

http://www.theschooloflife.com/melbourne/blog/2015/07/on-pornography/

The article reinforces the above ideas and reminds us our children are looking for or stumbling across porn before they hit their teens.

This story was told to me by a neighbouring mother: Her son who wouldn’t be 8 yet, had innocently typed in a name of a girl his mate liked accompanied by his mate’s name and bam, in the middle of mathematics class (somehow this pair had inadvertently broken through the school’s ‘firewall’), and the next nanosecond raging genitals rogered across the screen. Funny as it may seem (to some) as the Mum said to me, there’s no way to erase those images from her young son’s mind.

It’s not necessarily the content or the phenomenon of being able to ‘view sex’ that is unhealthy it’s the lack of diversity, lack of real-life, lack of complexity, over-saturation of amorality, over-simplification (both in camera angles and ‘action’) and the narrow portrayal of human desire.

The article says: “the negative sexual narratives presented in porn occur so often the storylines blur into one. Novelist Chimamanda Adichie warns us; “The single story creates stereotypes, and the problem with stereotypes is not that they are untrue, but that they are incomplete. They make one story become the only story. While we may know that porn isn’t sex, and that the sexual picture in these films is incomplete, someone in their teens may not.”

200902041529.jpgAlain de Botton (founder of School Of Life) offers some remedies for sexual conundrums:

“The greatest gift we can give our lovers are explanations,” says Alain de Botton, “as calm as we can make them, using lots of words, about what we’re truly like. In all our madness, complexity and strangeness.When it comes to our sexual preferences, we are all a bit different. But de Botton suggests “the problem is not that we’re weird, but that we’re operating with a skewed picture of normality, one that leaves far too much of our real selves out”. By embracing sexual diversity, getting in touch with what is pleasurable to us, and learning to communicate this to our partners, we will become more comfortable in our own bodies, more fulfilled as adults and better lovers to ourselves and our partners.”

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Finishing on a lighter note: If you read the whole article you’ll find Seattle’s ‘Hump‘ – Fest. Bucket list?

An amateur pornography festival based in USA, Hump! Is a celebration of diversity, love, smut and vulnerability. “HUMP! is humanizing,” says Savage. “[The films are made] for the creators and you’re invited to watch.”

Get filming?

 

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