Sarah Wilson’s “First we make the beast beautiful”

Really loving reading Sarah Wilson‘s “First we make the beast beautiful” an exploration of anxiety.

Can heartily recommend it
for those who think they may experience anxiety,
for those who know,
for those who know someone or for those who think they know someone that experiences anxiety,
and for those who always appreciate considering what another may live through.

Some fave quotes and suggestions (whilst I had a hot cross bun and lady grey break):

” …follow Maria Popova’s Brain Pickings blog (now called The Marginalian).”

Glennon Doyle Melton says this:

” Yes, I’ve got these conditions – anxiety, depression, addiction – and they almost killed me. But they are also my superpowers. I’m the canary in the mine and you need my sensitivity because I can smell toxins in the air that you can’t smell, see trouble you don’t see and sense danger you don’t feel. My sensitivity could save us all.So instead of letting me fall silent and die – why don’t we work together to clear some of this poison from the air?”

“Glennon adds this: ‘Help us manage our fire, but don’t try to extinguish us.'”

“Nietzsche said: ‘He who has a why can endure any how.'”

“I followed a thread on an anxiety site one day that discussed the impact of us anxious folk’s control-freakishness on partners. I emerged with this bit of advice to all the bewildered but caring partners out there: Don’t confuse our need to control our environment with a need to control you.

When we fuss and fret about getting crinkles out of the bed, and ask you to double check that you turned off the taps when you get up to go to the loo in the nights, and ask you to stick to plans and call when you say you will, we’re trying to control everything that we think might go wrong and that could trigger a spiral and ruin our time together. We’re truly not aiming to control you.

And to all the partners out there, I get that it totally doesn’t look this way to you. It’s a massive stretch, I know. But I humbly invite you to perhaps TRY to see our intentions through this lens because maybe it will make you feel better about the very tough but noble situation you’re no doubt it.”

And last but not least in the acknowledgements section (which made me lol):

“Rick and Brad, you held me and you housed me through the worst of it and when I threw a tangled tantrum with your clothes horses you only told me you’d done exactly the same and that clothes horses are bastards.”

PS I read that Aotearoa’s KMart sell this book.

I love reading your comments, kia ora for taking the time to share your thoughts

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s